September 05, 2008

Friends are...

Back in the day, I think we all thought that friendship meant finding someone who was exactly like you, who could finish your sentences and practically acted exactly the same, never disagreed with you - friendship back then was a lot simpler, because life was a lot simpler.

You got a little older and realized that friends were the people who told you your outfit looked terrible, even if it hurt your feelings a little. Friends were the people who could make little jokes about you, and you still knew that they cared.

Years would pass, and you realize that friends are the people who try to keep in touch, who try to keep things going even when your paths are starting to separate for the first time. You realized that even friends disagree - they yell at each other, sometimes gives one another the silent treatment, sometimes even think they're not even friends anymore. But when it came down to it, friends were the ones who saw you needed someone, built the bridges again, and walked right back into your life as if they never left.

When you're finally grown up enough to think about it, friends are the people who realize that maybe you don't seem to have anything in common at all - you might be complete opposites who can hardly see anything the same way. But friends, you realize, are the people who support you - the ones who like to see you happy, however that happiness may be gained. Friends are the people who'll tell you if you're wrong. They may be the ones to make you cry once in a while, but even more important are all the times they make you smile.

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All of my friendships are a little bit different, but they're all based on these realizations. I've had to go through a lot to realize that friends aren't people who try to change the parts of you that you wouldn't be the same or happy without.

I have friends who recognize that I'm a little bit nerdy, and a little over-sensitive. I'm a little bit of a loudmouth who doesn't always watch what she says, but always apologizes when she realizes she's said something wrong. They realize that I'm the kind of person who likes to see the beauty of things, even if it's hard to find.

I think I shoud include a biiiig mention for my friend Veronica - we've had our disagreements, and we've been hard on each other at times. But we've been through it all - from hardy even knowing each other in third grade, to being best friends, to hardly speaking at all, and back to being friends, I think it proves that maybe friendships don't always stay the same, but the real ones never die.

1 comment:

Veronica (= said...

Aww, I wanna cry because its so true. Even if we hardly see each other we're still friends. We had some disagreements, but we got over them. And its funny because we are different from each other but that never stops us from caring about one another. And when some bitch *ahem* Jenny *ahem* continues to harass you I'm still here reading about it all thinking how stupid she is with you because she is. HAHA. Anyways, this is a long comment. But I'm happy we're still friends. Out of our group of people (Ryan, Melissa, Anna, you, and me) only you and me are still friends. (= Because friends are people that never give up on a friendship, they keep trying to see/talk to each other even if they're busy or in different schools. Thats what friends are. . . (: Oh, and we still need that Starbucks date.

And you know what? I can see you being a bridesmaid at my wedding ;D Hehe.