Interracial Dating

Dating Obstacle #4. The Gazers

I know. It gets old. Not everybody is used to seeing an interracial couple. People will stare at you. They may even display a frown or a furrowed brow.

How do you cope?

Ignore the natural response of attempting to read their minds. Who knows what they're thinking when they stare: Maybe they admire you two as a couple, or they like your threads, or they just haven't seen your "kind" before, or they're waiting for you two to show some affection so they can label you as a couple rather than friends. It's pointless to keep wondering.

Instead, imagine you're a celebrity. In fact, you are. You might well be the spectacle of the day for them. Thrive and celebrate your uniqueness. These public encounters add flavor to the otherwise bland experiences of their lives. You're simply desensitizing them to the notion of colorblind dating. Sooner or later, they won't look twice ... because they've seen it before.
source: Yahoo Dating 101: Dealing With the Race Factor

I always feel really surprised when I see articles like this - people look down on interracial dating?

Alright, maybe it's the fact that I'm from California or something, but I don't think I've ever been stared at funny when I'm with Erik, the way they mention in the above excerpt. And we're clearly NOT the same race. Please note:



It might be argued that it's "okay" for me, because I have lighter skin than a lot of Filipinos. I've heard that quite a few times before, and people have taken a liking to using it for an excuse for why I seem to get farther than others with relative ease. There's just one problem - no matter how light my skin is, I'm still obviously not Caucasian. Sure, people may not date outside of their own ethnic groups as much as within, but that's sort of to be expected. Different ethnicities value different things, and many times, it's easiest to find what you're looking for inside of the group you're familiar with. If the "lack" of interracial dating is such a bad thing, is that implying that there is an "excess" of intraracial dating?

To me, it seems like the information in the article may be up to date, but the attitude behind the article itself is really outdated.